> You don’t care about your work because you’re depressed.
> Same with everything else.
> take it seriously and find a good psychiatrist to help with it.
So, you're seeing a depression as an external "illness" that can only be cured by pharmeceutical compounds?
I can only speak for myself, but to me that was dangerous advice. it removed accountability for my actions. the only thing that helped was getting into new actions. actively changing small things.
i was diagnosed with severe depression more than once in my life. things started to change for me only when I stopped believing this narrative.
a psychiatrist will give you pills, a psychologist will talk to you with a "playbook", both will try do bring some predefined indexes of clinical depression down. nothing of this is tailored to your personality.
because you mentioned it: gym does not change everything miraculously (neither do pills), but it taught me that my actions have significant effect. going through a perceived hamster wheel all the time, that realization was a big step forward to me. i did things that i did not want (like meeting people, applying for jobs, etc.). that helped, and it gets easier with each step.
I think it's outright disrespectful to just assume people in such circumstances are just looking for external factors to step out of responsibility. Have you ever thought that they do want to make a move, but just cant because their minds are broken?
you cant apply the "you actually just have to step up and get out of your comfort zone" advice to people whose minds are severely altered by their condition. You fix the condition first, or give a remedy, then when they start to get a grip on things you move to making changes to get them out of the situation
thank god you only speak for yourself, please keep it that way
Of course it’s not black and white. But the more concious control you have over some problem - the more it is your own laziness or stupidity rather than an illness that needs to be treated by professionals. Generally speaking.
For me, talking about my childhood to someone that was non-judgemental helped me far more than lifting weight. But that was for me. I'm glad you found your way.
Yes, sure, there is more than one way (maybe even as many ways as patients). My point was not about gym or not, it was about the idea that depression is something that is totally outside of one's own control.
The python executable from the venv is not going to work inside the container as it's a symlink by default. That's a venv that was built on their host OS, and the symlink to the Python binary on the container is not going to work.
You could also pass the `--copies` parameter when creating the initial venv, so it's a copy and not symlinks, but that is not going to work if your on MacOS or Windows (because the binary platform is different to the Linux that's running the container), or if your development Python is built with different library versions than the container you're starting.
Isn't it just that we were pioneering web2 in a time (after the dotcom bubble) in which access to the internet became more ubiquitous?
Remember the beer app on the first iPhone. Playing with Sensors and graphics on a new device was just fun. Just like tinkering with the Raspberry has been.
Then, this got commercialized and optimized for money to the ground. To me, as sad it might be, "tech" and "web" has just become a mature market.
> Not just the vibes, but the net hope for humanity and short/medium/long term forecasts of the health of the united states were all much higher among the average joe
I'm European, so genuinely curious why that optimism faded away in the US
This could be me. It is interesting to see how close some details are: My home country is (based on your user name) the same as mine, I do have the same dreams, I do have approx. the same savings. Im just a little younger and I didn't get my education in the US.
So, I really, really can relate to your situation.
Here is what worked for me:
First: Radical self-acceptance. Your outlook to the future determines your success in reaching your goals. That's the hard part, and I'm not there, yet, too.
Second: If you struggle with self-acceptance, apply what I call the Paradox of Specificity.
In professional sports, any exercise should be specific to the training goal to achieve maximum results. If, for example, you're training for a marathon, there is little value in doing chest presses all the day. This rule of specificity to me, is very appealing. It just works like programming: Effort in, result out. However, the rule of specificity does not apply to the way more complex thing that we call "life". Take dating for example. If anything you do with your time is somehow "looking" for a partner, you will most likely fail. This is the part where specificity is actually causing harm.
So, what I did: I created a mindset that I can influence my well-being. The reasoning is easy: If I see that I can change things for the better, I will continue to do things.
First, I started with a proper diet, then I added some sports. The first months already were amazing, so I read everything I could. I optimized my Gym training plan, my diet, my supplements, I experienced with medications, oxygen therapy, cold exposure, sauna, red light exposure and everything I could find. The results:
- More confidence as I went from overweight to below 10% body fat
- more overall well-being, better sleep, no fatigue
- the idea that I really control what's going on in my life was planted in my head
Second, I put myself into uncomfortable situations: I walk every day at least 10k steps, no matter the wheather. I end my shower with cold as long as I could (increasing number of seconds each time), so that my mind gets programmed to complete a task even in uncomfortable situations.
Also, I did things that I would never have done before. Public speaking, travel in solitude (which I admit has felt like loneliness sometimes), practising martial arts.
Third, start to get rid of negative things: Avoid toxic people, avoid alcohol, and other drugs, limit my caffeine intake, no more junk food.
And now, where am I? I'm still struggling with positive perception of the future but I see this gets better every day. I am more open to people and I feel that I "attract" positive vibes around me. I was guest on a marriage and I was able to build strong relationships with other guests. Something I thought I've lost (or just became too old).
A word on therapy: Not sure about your insurance, but if you can afford it, take some "retreat" for 6weeks in a nice clinic that offers nature, sports, good food, therapy sessions and whatnot. This distance from your usual day to day life and the support you get, can be a booster. But: Tell them what you want, put the effort in. I know how harsh that sounds: But no therapist can help if you just sit there and complain how bad everything is.
Btw, getting back to the US seems appealing for me too, right now, even if the timing is not right from an economic pov.
If you want to chat, give me a note here and we'll find a way to connect
You don't have to supply (i.e. buy) your own hardware, but you might have to pay for the power supply.
On the contrary, you likely have lower commuting costs.
However, the more important aspect might be that you end up needing more space at home and the employer needs less space in the office. Working from your kitchen table is probably not the best idea in terms of ergonomics.
In my opinion this aspect gets few attention in the discussion.
Many people (prior to Covid) did not have a desk and chair suitable for WFH (I did, but many of my coworkers didn't). Chairs and desks are hardware.
Many couples do not have two spare bedrooms (especially in the Bay Area) to work in. That means potentially renting/buying a larger living space, or converting living space into working space.
N=1, but my lower commuting costs are more than offset by the lack of company-provided lunches, snacks, and coffee.
So, you're seeing a depression as an external "illness" that can only be cured by pharmeceutical compounds?
I can only speak for myself, but to me that was dangerous advice. it removed accountability for my actions. the only thing that helped was getting into new actions. actively changing small things.
i was diagnosed with severe depression more than once in my life. things started to change for me only when I stopped believing this narrative.
a psychiatrist will give you pills, a psychologist will talk to you with a "playbook", both will try do bring some predefined indexes of clinical depression down. nothing of this is tailored to your personality.
because you mentioned it: gym does not change everything miraculously (neither do pills), but it taught me that my actions have significant effect. going through a perceived hamster wheel all the time, that realization was a big step forward to me. i did things that i did not want (like meeting people, applying for jobs, etc.). that helped, and it gets easier with each step.
ymmv