I wasn't really trying to convince him, I just think making drastic life decisions based on what sounds in essence to me like "whining" is possibly less than ideal, he had many other choices available to him if simply paying a long mortgage was the prime motivating factor. I may also be showing an anti-millennial bias /sigh
I have also heard one too many stories of post-college kids doing cross-country bike rides for similar reasons and getting run over and killed, and that upsets me.
> I have also heard one too many stories of post-college kids doing cross-country bike rides for similar reasons and getting run over and killed, and that upsets me.
Do you propose they sit at a desk instead, and be scared to actually live?
It's cool to bash on desk jobs but for most it's low-risk high-income work, and there are surely plenty of guys doing very manual risky jobs who would be only so happy to trade up to a cushy air conditioned office job for the same or better pay.
But some folks will figure out what works for them eventually. And admittedly it's probably not for everyone.
Of course, that's the point. If someone wants to quit so they can ride a bike across a country, that's as valid a choice as yours is to keep going to work. Nobody is wrong, everyone is just making their own choices.
he's bothered by the fact that his goals may not be the ones he thinks he wants, hence the projection and self-convincing. when you invest all day every day in something it hurts to see other people reject it, i guess.
i've sat at a desk my entire career, almost 15 years, and it's starting to get old. it's starting to make me feel old, and i'm not old, not by a long shot. it's starting to affect my social life and mental health. 3 months ago i decided to make a change, and have started to implement it. hopefully will be done within a year.
i promised myself if it seems like i'm being sucked back in, which happens when lots of money is involved, i'm going to cut and run on my 35th birthday. there's no fucking way i'm going to sit at a desk all day (a little is fine) at the mid-way point of this decade before 40.
I have also heard one too many stories of post-college kids doing cross-country bike rides for similar reasons and getting run over and killed, and that upsets me.