> If you cannot state your need without judgmental comments (blaming others, etc), you are not going to get far in solving the problem. Your problems are valid, but you have to be able to communicate them in ways that don't trigger defensiveness.
Bullshit stays bullshit, even if you sugar-coat it.
> Imagine you're saying these things to someone who has never dealt with this problem (e.g. someone not in SW).
In this case, the respective person should better trust the judgement of the software developers who have gone through this lots of time.
> I wonder if you're merely blaming NVC for something that is independent of NVC.
Applying psychobable instead of attempting to solve the problem will make people angry.
Bullshit stays bullshit, even if you sugar-coat it.
> Imagine you're saying these things to someone who has never dealt with this problem (e.g. someone not in SW).
In this case, the respective person should better trust the judgement of the software developers who have gone through this lots of time.
> I wonder if you're merely blaming NVC for something that is independent of NVC.
Applying psychobable instead of attempting to solve the problem will make people angry.