I don't see how anyone besides this one, random, survivor-biased Twitter dude will have any luck with throwing a message-in-a-bottle doc out there. No one will ever read it. They'd have better luck posting flyers at bus stops and near Whole Foods.
There's a balance between being organized and tilting at windmills seeking a love "algorithm".
Get your sh*t together and it will come. Or be hot and have fun.
In bragging-disclaimer: I live in a major metro (with a respected university) where there's an infinite supply of women and no real need for a dating app. I don't understand hookup apps as they feel gross and Brave New World to me while dating apps feel loser-ish for people who can't socialize but are desperate.
> while dating apps feel loser-ish for people who can't socialize but are desperate.
Apps allow you be to visible to other people who are also open to getting together. Not all of the "infinite supply of women" in your area want to be approached at stores, work, on the sidewalk, etc.. Giving them control over who can talk to them (and when) can make dating a safer experience.
Further, there may be people with similar interests who live further away and don't frequent your circuit of clubs, bars, or wherever else you meet people. Apps can bridge those distances too.
And for other populations like LGBT folks, where they're a minority seeking a minority, apps are basically required in certain areas.
Searching for jobs online is for losers. Normal people don't resort to that; they print out a bunch of resumes, then go door-to-door and demand to talk to the hiring manager for local companies.
Yeah, that's the idea. There's still people complaining about how their Boomer parents or grandparents are saying stuff exactly like that though, and it's just as realistic and relevant as the idea that online dating is for "losers". Online dating works great (well, better than the alternatives at least) for people who have already exhausted their social circle, which is pretty much everyone who's over the age of 30 and doesn't hang out at bars or have a job that puts them into contact with new dateable people on a regular basis.
For older demographics in less populated areas, dating apps are often the only reliable way to meet new people. There isn't an "infinite supply" of either gender, especially not single people. Though I agree with your other points, and as a loser-ish person who doesn't like to socialize, I recognize that is a limiting factor for me as well.
There's a balance between being organized and tilting at windmills seeking a love "algorithm".
Get your sh*t together and it will come. Or be hot and have fun.
In bragging-disclaimer: I live in a major metro (with a respected university) where there's an infinite supply of women and no real need for a dating app. I don't understand hookup apps as they feel gross and Brave New World to me while dating apps feel loser-ish for people who can't socialize but are desperate.