You sound as if you aren't living it. There is compassion, but in a large part, when everyone is stressed (including the kids) by schedule or performance there isn't enough time to really gain rapport, and contempt sets in for the ones who "can't handle it".

This is the logical conclusion of not spending enough time together, or time spent together while one or more of an organizational unit are under serious duress.

The way to alleviate is to enjoy "quality" time together - guess what folks don't have time to do when their stress levels are up?