Zed is OSS but not free. There's a company behind it, not volunteers. They are doing quite some marketing lately. I don't see anything wrong with calling the current issue "completely unacceptable". Forced opt-in is what happens if the language is not offensive.
Interesting. Do paying customers get a different bug tracker from the open source repos or do they all get directed to the same place? If people are paying for this editor then the tone may make a lot more sense.
I can't find anything about a commercial offering so I don't know what the non-free version entails.