Good on you for expressing all the downsides/uncomfortable/so complicated you sometimes simplify bits. I have never been in a situation where I addressed every question in advance, and normally there are negatives that aren't flushed out. That's all I'm asking for. What uncomfortable thing aren't you saying, and is our relationship/discussion one where you are willing to volunteer them. I find it a sign it's not a strong discussion when people don't volunteer a real answer to my legitimate question.