That's good advice, which is irrelevant to the discussion of why people feel the way they do. I don't think we actually disagree on anything. I think you understand what I'm saying but would prefer to use my comments as a launchpad to express judgments about social media users than to discuss the why, and I just have no interest in that.
I took "confusion" in the original comment to mean "I'm curious why this is." You seem to be saying you "don't get it" to mean that they're stupid for making different decisions about the cost versus benefit of social media use, or for wanting to reduce that cost. Again, just not something I'm interested in discussing further.
I did not write the original "confusion" comment by the way, not sure if you saw that, you will have to ask JumpCrisscross why they're confused. That being said, what is your opinion on why people feel the way they do?
Relating to your second paragraph, it seems, at least to me, that the answer to "I'm curious why this is" is genuinely related to ignorance or lack of interest in changing their privacy settings, rather them them being stupid per se (if you want to define "stupid" to mean so, then I guess you can but that's not my intention).
I see. It seems that I fundamentally disagree with your analogies, premises and therefore conclusions. As I said in another thread, real life and online are not the same, the general public does not have the same grievances of one and the other (e.g., they may find it fine to stalk people's social media (or be stalked) and not physically stalk someone in real life (or be stalked)). My point is that only on HN (and technologists in general) do people believe otherwise, and I am pointing out that their feelings do not extend to the public at large.
Any disagreements I have seen to the contrary on these threads seem to be just another example of my point being proven (as no one has really brought up any good reasoning to why they equate real life to social media), as it seems people here cannot think of themselves as merely a vocal minority not representative of the larger population.
I think it's bizarre and incorrect to think of social interactions online and in person as fundamentally different. I think this idea that only technologists understand or care is patronizing.
In general, I see people doing things online that they would not do offline, in much the same way one acts professionally at a workplace while not so at home, they're simply different spaces, so that is why I ask why they are different.
The point about technologists is not meant to be patronizing, it's a trend I've seen. The article itself shows that people seem to be "mind blown" by such restaurant social media stalking, but I doubt they'd be so if a restaurant followed them around in person.
Hence, I see evidence of the two types of interactions being different while I do not see any evidence, in this thread or others, of them being the same, that is why I made the top level comment that I did.
Anyway, this is becoming a long thread and I don't think there's much to be said further on my side. I hope you have a good day.
I took "confusion" in the original comment to mean "I'm curious why this is." You seem to be saying you "don't get it" to mean that they're stupid for making different decisions about the cost versus benefit of social media use, or for wanting to reduce that cost. Again, just not something I'm interested in discussing further.