not intending to start an apple-vs-msft flamewar, but this has been a solved problem on the mac since forever. is the experience that bad on windows laptops that you don't want a big trackpad? genuine question.
It is for Synaptics drivers (some manufacturers like Dell, Razer, HP used to default to those) but not for precision touchpad drivers (what's used in the Surfaces).
yeah. you definitely want palm detection off or it'll miss a good deal of swipes (if you mix typing and mousing). with palm detection off, you need the touchpad to be slightly offset to the left and small enough that it fits between your hands at rest.